Truth Rules

A blog for fans of Clay Aiken. It may take a while but in the end, truth will win out over lies. Keep it clean, no threats ... and if I don't like what you say I own the delete key.

Monday, July 24, 2006

Words

They are what we use to communicate with each other. They are used to express our hopes, our wishes, our joy, our sadness, our love, our hate, our dreams, and our nightmares. Without words we would live alone in a silent world.

Words can soothe a troubled soul, turn sadness into joy, cause anger and hurt, or make you so happy you feel like your walking on clouds. Words can unite people or tear them apart. Words can build a person up or tear that person down. Words can be strung together to tell a story or write a song. Words can be beautiful or hateful. Make you laugh or make you cry.

Words have power, but that power lies within how the words are used. The words a person uses are a good indication of whether that person is filled with love or hate.

16 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I like this quote by Martin Luther King.

"Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away at its vital unity. Hate destroys a man's sense of values and his objectivity. It causes him to describe the beautiful as ugly and the ugly as beautiful, and to confuse the true with the false and the false with the true."

July 24, 2006 3:05 PM  
Blogger kit said...

That's a wonderful quote by MLK, anon. Thanks for posting it. Clay has filled us all with love, so that hate no longer plays a role in our lives. If only the haters could open their hearts to what Clay is all about, they might be able to let go of their self-corrosive hatred.

July 24, 2006 4:48 PM  
Blogger Oh Crap said...

Remove the hate and those who hate would have no meaning to their lives. People like the Cootie are beyond help.

July 24, 2006 7:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That quote by MLK is so true. The
World Wide Web has made it possible
for the purveyors of hate to remain
anomimous. We must therefore spread
the love.

July 24, 2006 10:00 PM  
Blogger WRU said...

Hate is only successful if you react to what they are conveying. The "Haters" are trying to get a rise out of us, if we react they get off on it. The best thing for us to do is to do exactly what we are conveying current. We are support OMC and telling the truth, so the hate in my opinion is totally negated!

wru

July 24, 2006 10:19 PM  
Blogger Truth Rules said...

WombatsRUS, I'm sorry but I don't feel right about posting that on blogs I know haters are reading.

July 24, 2006 10:20 PM  
Blogger Truth Rules said...

The one about the war.

I know our hearts are in the right place but I sure as hell don't trust anyone that hates Clay or us.

July 24, 2006 11:13 PM  
Blogger WRU said...

Agreed, no problem.

I will put it on friendlier places where the lice and crud dare not venture.

July 25, 2006 8:29 AM  
Blogger WRU said...

Speaking on wonderful news,

Word is that end of this week will be the official announcement for OMC album!!

Can't wait!

July 25, 2006 9:01 AM  
Blogger Truth Rules said...

I can't wait either. I'm so looking forward to what's coming. A new CD, TV, radio, a new tour. Bring it on.

July 25, 2006 9:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What a poignant blog about the power of words. A physician once told me that verbal abuse could be even more damaging than the physical kind. The words one uses are a direct link to the soul. Thanks for the quote by MLK. I have always admired him.

July 25, 2006 12:45 PM  
Anonymous Polly Graf said...

Kit said: "Clay has filled us all with love, so that hate no longer plays a role in our lives."

Anon 11:00 said: "We must therefore spread the love."

In the last blog, a couple of you expressed a different sentiment toward my beliefs about forgiveness. I just wanted to add that if we cannot forgive, then we have no love. Love means hardly ever noticing when someone or something has hurt us. And once you've forgiven, then it must be forgotten.

I realize that is often easier said than done. We get caught up in emootions of the moment and heated debates and sometimes say things that we can never take back, for our path may never cross with that person again on the Internet. But forgiveness is possible and something we should strive for. Some would call it taking the high road.

I think Clay over the past six months has shown us by example how to walk in love and forgiveness. As has been said, hating is only harmful to the person who hates. There was a moral to be learned as kids from such statements as, "Sticks and stones..." "I'm rubber you're glue..." "If you can't say something nice, say nothing."

I think we're all growing up.:)

July 25, 2006 4:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Polly:

I'm one of the posters to whom you're referring. Perhaps I should clarify my previous comment. Your friend (and most of us know of her) exhibited obsessive behavior towards Clay the past 3 years and was partly to blame for what she felt was a M&G gone awry. Yet, not only has she not accepted any responsibility for her own behavior that night, she actively aided and abetted in the possible destruction of the career (and life) of a singer. Her behavior IMO bordered on criminal. Clay isn't God, nor does he profess to be. He might have had good cause for his behavior that night, least of which was that he considered her and those with her to be potential stalkers. Imagine what it must be like for him to see the same faces over and over again, wherever he goes. Clay isn't stupid.

While their efforts in raising money for the BAF were to be commended, they had an ulterior motive and that was to gain access to Clay's inner circle. When he didn't deliver on their expectations, they made public threats and then had the audacity to put them into action. Talk about obsessed and delusional!

I'm not saying not to forgive her, but has she asked for forgiveness? How can you pretend that none of this ever happened and absolve her of any blame? To forgive and forget is fine; after all, she is your friend. However, there needs to be a discussion as to why she behaved so irrationally and out-of-proportion to the initial incident. She was part of the problem. For her to continue to be in denial of her own behavior that evening and to not accept responsibility for her part in this smear campaign is not worthy of forgiveness IMO. It only justifies her behavior in her own eyes. She needs counseling, and she needs to learn to become a less obsessed fan, no matter what fandom she chooses to follow.

I'm not going to absolve Clay of all blame in this; he might have handled things better himself. He might even have regretted his part in what was probably a negative experience for all involved, himself included. But he had a concert to do and responsibilities of his own that night that far outweighed placating a bunch of obsessed women having hissy fits over not receiving special attention and for just behaving badly.

July 25, 2006 6:47 PM  
Anonymous Polly Graf said...

Anon 7:47 - We both may be jumping the gun here, because I could be totally off base. Since there were four women present, I also hope we're referring to the same person.

Let me say, I am not arguing with you; I thoroughly understand everything you said and where you're coming from. I made those comments in the last blog in the hope that she would see it. It was meant as an "olive branch." And as I suspected, it was carried over to their blog.

Let me clarify that I have no indication that any "mind changing" is in fact occurring, other than wishful thinking on my part. You don't know the woman and her family that I knew before she transferred to another state, just as I don't know all of her behavior once she moved there. But the woman I and others here knew, experienced a great deal of personal turmoil with this person and understand far more about what happened in her life than do others. Let me stipulate: understanding and agreeing with, are two seperate things. As I said, I am not privy to what she became, only what she was.

As far as forgiveness and my role is concerned, she is already forgiven; something my faith commands me to do 70 x 7, and "worthiness" has nothing to do with it. She may never seek forgiveness, and probably won't, but that must be up to her. On the other hand, I certainly can't find it in my heart to hate her, nor will I.

I can almost guarantee you that Clay Aiken, if he hasn't already, will forgive the likes of JP, which for some may seem absurd, but he will and it will have nothing to do with JP asking for forgiveness, for it's how you "Let go, and let God," and move on.

I don't expect others to understand or agree with me. But this is who I am and how I believe and since we're on the brink of great things about to occur, I would much rather concentrate on the good things to look forward to rather than looking back. If and when the past catches up to me, I'll deal with it then.

Sorry if my comments caused you any grief or pain. That was not my intention.

July 25, 2006 8:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Polly,

We're talking about the same person. Your faith is to be commended and yes, you're probably right about Clay. Although I think he hasn't yet reached that point, but who am I to say?

I doubt Buddy will ever seek forgiveness. People like him never hold themselves accountable for their actions. Yet, they hold others accountable for the exact same actions for which they themselves are guilty. He may speak the words, but his words ring hollow. We've all seen plenty of evidence of that.

I'm not here to fight with you. Your friend owes you and your fan group, the FL fan group and Clay an apology. Until and unless that happens, I wouldn't forgive her myself. I can't tell you what to do.

July 25, 2006 9:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have no idea what Poly Graf and Anon are talking about in terms of the other person they are discussing and what happened. However, the words and sentiments were interesting to me.

I've longed believed that Clay hasn't answered his accusors because of his faith. He has probably had more than enough grounds to sue, but I believe he is approaching these demons prayerfully, based on his Christian beliefs.

July 28, 2006 11:35 AM  

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