Truth Rules

A blog for fans of Clay Aiken. It may take a while but in the end, truth will win out over lies. Keep it clean, no threats ... and if I don't like what you say I own the delete key.

Monday, May 15, 2006

Blueprint for a Con Artist

In order to defend yourself against a con artist, you need to know what they do and how they do it. So whether the con artist is an individual or a group they use the following guidelines to perpetrate the con.

Create a Controversy
* Controversy sells.

Create a Public Image
* Make a big public spectacle of whatever issue you choose.
* Dehumanize those on the other side whenever possible.

Manipulate the Controversy
* Sell fear and divisiveness.
* Gain followers.
* Get our spokesmen in front of the media.
* Get our position expressed in the media.

Practice Mind Control
* Remember the classic rule, "divide and conquer."
* Create anxiety and doubt - twist the truth
* Plant believable lies - use "anonymous insiders" for this

Destroy the Opposition
* Threaten punishment to those who questions us.
* Pick a dissenter and attack and destroy him/her in every way possible.
* Publicize his destruction. This will discourage others.
* Get rid of those who are influential or have leadership potential.

Topple All Heroes and Positive Role Models
* Leave no hero standing.
* Leave no reputation untarnished, except, of course, our heroes.

* There are no rules.
* Always claim the high moral ground.
* Follow the letter of the law completely ignoring it's intent.
* Set up secret groups to do the illegal, unethical or immoral tasks.

Con artists have been with us since time began. Not every con artist wants your money, some just want the feeling of empowerment they get from scamming you. Don't give it to them. Don't fall for their tricks.


Blogger yeahthat said...

Another great blog, Truth...and it's all so true.

Intimidation by sarcasm, arrogance and fear...lethal combination, if allowed to fester.

Blogs like this help immensely in making people aware of what to look for.

We are certainly aware.

May 15, 2006 3:11 PM  
Blogger Oh Crap said...

Great one! Thanks.

May 15, 2006 5:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

A most excellent blog - it should be required reading. Very interesting to see it all layed out like that.

May 15, 2006 5:26 PM  
Blogger Kallie1016 said...

This is such good advice for all of us...and it so describes the gherkin

May 15, 2006 7:53 PM  
Blogger Oh Crap said...

You and company are the only cons in this game. We've proven your lies, the cafe girls were proven liars, Groucho, Shannon and Emach have always been liars and their evil little games were uncovered. Please go back to your den of slime.


May 15, 2006 11:41 PM  
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May 16, 2006 2:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have asked the question over and over again. Who on earth are Adam and Leon? I have heard about them at least 6 times in 6 different blogs.

May 16, 2006 2:12 AM  
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May 16, 2006 2:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Claymates exist everywhere. The more John defames Clay, the more pissed off we become. We need to ignore him and let him self-destruct on his own. We are much better then he is. He is not worth our time.

May 16, 2006 2:21 AM  
Anonymous Polly Graf said...

You know what's going on here, gang? JP has met his match in Adam. Adam is a real cool and very clever guy (don't you just love him?) and JP is confused, and maybe a little scared. He doesn't know quite what to think. Maybe he thinks Adam is Rajo!

He's seeking info about Adam from us, but don't tell him anything. He must prove himself first. We have Adam's private message board and the blog is moving and poor JP won't know what's going on, but WE KNOW!

This is the most fun I've had in 4 months!

JP, did you actually say this?

"Do you have any idea how difficult it is to try to rebuild a decent reputation after your good name has been dragged through the mud in a pototo sack, while being beaten with a baseball bat and eventually slaughtered by a prick like Rajo?"

Were you talking about yourself, Corey, or Clay?

Show us some credibility and some Green Beret integrity and tell me who is Insane Bastard? I think I know, but you could confirm it. And while you're at it, you could tell us about Rajo? I know there's a painful story there we haven't heard yet. I've always listened to you in the past; I'll listen again if you want to talk. But no emails or IMs. I do all my business in the know that.

May 16, 2006 3:39 AM  
Blogger John Paulus said...

polly graf you don't think I know what's going on. Hold on and I will be in two minutes to prove otherwise.

May 16, 2006 3:41 AM  
Blogger John Paulus said...

Let me just add for the record that I did not call Adam nor do I need to. I don't do coke. He has posted many time under several screen names on my blog and I love the threat to use a baseball bat. Now I have several posts from so many people on your little "private" site. So Polly Graf you need not worry about me not knowing what is going on.

Posted by Adam:
the reason I'm even still up is from my phone ringing off the damn hook. Obviously he's coked up tonight.
All I heard when i answered was screaming.

I am going to hold off on posting my blog until afternoon.
He should NOT have the power to affect anyones, Mothers Day.

He posted on my BLog, I have not and did not post on his blog at all.
I will pull that post, until later on, he is sick, and he needs a baseball bat slap to the head.
Not from me, but maybe, well never mind.

Posted by mommajudy:
Adam, I can't even begin to imagine what it must feel like to be in this maniac's sights. I CAN tell you that I would never have the courage to do what you have been doing with him.

And to do this for a person (Clay) you barely know because you felt someone needed to stand up for him is all the more remarkable.

When things get really rough like they are at the moment, please remember how much we all admire you for what you are doing. I know that admiration won't protect you if he comes a knockin' at your door, but somehow I just don't think that's going to happen. For all his bravado, he's a real coward. He hides behind a computer screen and umpteen false personas spreading lies and encouraging hatred. His cohorts are the type of people your mother always warned you about hanging with. A man of courage would never hide - he'd be right out there in the open and not cowering behind an electronic device.

I'm only a party of one, speaking only for myself, but you have my heartfelt thanks for sticking your nose into this mess. I suspect there may be others around here who share my sentiments.

Posted by aaronsmom:
I'm sorry he's causing you any pain at all, Adam, even it's the temporary pain caused by a rabid, desperate green-head fly.

It's so unfair he's caused any of us any pain at all.

Thinking of the AMOUNT of pain and annoyance Mr Picklehead has caused ..... well, (1) it makes me disgusted and (2) it probably makes Pickles-for-Brains very smug and happy.

I've posted before that I think that we are dealing with a Pickle with a serious Personality Disorder, and I know others have said that, too. One way you can tell that you're dealing with Personality Disorder is the strong, uncomfortable feelings the person evokes in you. In dealing with His Royal Pathetic Pickleness, many of us experience the delightful feelings of stress, disgust, discomfort, anger, disbelief, dread, , nausea, horror, skeeviness, and the wish to stomp on both his heads with army boots. And those are when we're in a relatively good mood and have had lots of sleep.

So it stinks that he has any power to affect any of us, or any organism in the universe. However, it has nothing to do with our weakness or with his actual power. It just has to do with the fact that he's a textbook case of serious Personality Disorder.

I just wish he'd stayed in a textbook, where only graduate students in Psychopathology would have to read about him.

Love you, Adam! And everybody else who's had any pain because of the Pathological Pickle.
Posted by Skybar22:

"WOW! I just caught up with everything that has been going on. Adam, I'll add my support to you and thanks for all you are doing to help. Pickle is a very sick man. He really is psychologically sick and you can't try to reason with that. He is also potentially dangerous and that is my biggest concern. I think it is a real challenge to figure out how to deal with a person like this and as much as I appreciate all the humor, we need to be careful not to rile this guy up to the point that he gets desperate. I'm speaking from a place of having worked with really disturbed people and I do not want to see him continue to harass you Adam or do stupid things. He does not care nor does he have anything to lose because he has literally lost it all. Be careful and do what you have to do to take care of yourself."

May 16, 2006 3:44 AM  
Blogger John Paulus said...

I NEVER made that statement.

JP, did you actually say this?

"Do you have any idea how difficult it is to try to rebuild a decent reputation after your good name has been dragged through the mud in a pototo sack, while being beaten with a baseball bat and eventually slaughtered by a prick like Rajo?"

May 16, 2006 4:00 AM  
Anonymous Polly Graf said...

Is that it? You completely ignored my comments to you and continued to talk about Adam? Yet you want me to believe that he doesn't concern you? Sorry, it looks entirely different to me on this side of the screen.

You know the old saying: "If you are an honest person, you are a magnet for people who think you are gullible." I'd guess you'll say that applies to both you and I. Am I right?

Listen, John. Whatever is going on between you and Adam is between the two of you. I'm just a blog hopper. My loyalties I keep to myself for the most part, except for my family. I would protect them with my life.

There's nothing I can tell you about Adam. You probably know more about him than I do since I've never spoken to the man. But why the big concern? What is it that worries you? You show me posts from some fans. Fans say whatever they want...that's the rule on message boards. How does that concern you and Adam?

May 16, 2006 4:19 AM  
Anonymous Polly Graf said...

"Do you have any idea how difficult it is to try to rebuild a decent reputation after your good name has been dragged through the mud in a pototo sack, while being beaten with a baseball bat and eventually slaughtered by a prick like Rajo?"

If you didn't make that statement, then who did? Surely you know since it was posted on your blog?

May 16, 2006 4:24 AM  
Blogger John Paulus said...

I have no idea where on that blog that statement was made. It may come as a surprise but Saturday and Sunday I spent very little time there so if on either of those days it was posted then I missed it. Typically I do not read all the posts.

"Adam" I am not particularly fond of, because he is taking advantage of people. The man is a hypocrite and I despise hypocrites. That is my problem with him. He does not concern me in the least. He can antagonize and prode all he wants, but just like with Clay I am will expose him for the fraud he is. And trust me the man is a FRAUD. Actually I don't think I will expose him, because I think it would be great for the Claymates to get sucked in by him so I could the thrill of telling all of them I told you so.

Soon this will end and in the end the fans that made Clay Aiken will be the same ones responsible for ruining him. It truly is very very sad.

May 16, 2006 4:36 AM  
Anonymous Polly Graf said...

That post was not made over the weekend. It was made on April 5th, at 9:42 PM, on your blog, during the attack against you from Insane Bastard. Can you tell me who he is? And if not, why not?

I think your idea about Adam is a good one. Let the fans find out for themselves.

"Soon this will end and in the end the fans that made Clay Aiken will be the same ones responsible for ruining him. It truly is very very sad."

And you won't feel any responsibility for that? Not even a little bit? This all started because of you, you do realize? Clay and his fans were getting along just fine until you came along, and stayed and stayed, so I do hope you will be man enough to take that responsibility.

May 16, 2006 4:55 AM  
Blogger Oh Crap said...

I see some of John's buddies have shown up to smear these pages. None of us use racial slurs so call in your slime gobblers, JP. It's usually Emach who uses racist remarks when pretending to be a Clay fan. Evil spew from an evil woman.

May 16, 2006 6:05 AM  
Blogger yeahthat said...

Ummmmm, why are we arguing with this asshat over here? Doesn't he have a frickin' blog of his own?

Jeezuz, stalkerboy, you are seriously demented and flat out NUTS.

You are being played like a fine guitar and you can't even figure it out. Your ego will not allow you to see that YOU are being taken for a ride.

Get over yourself and go back to your slime.

May 16, 2006 6:55 AM  
Blogger Oh Crap said...

Don't even go there with me, you little creep. I'm not even sure it's you; I still believe it's Groucho half the time. Talk about selling your soul and your password to the devil!

May 16, 2006 6:55 AM  
Anonymous purplepecker needs a life... said...

Oh my! Mama Sabby must have let lil' Johnny out of his cage. He's foaming at the mouth - ROFLMAO

He claims that Clay's fans are running scared? Oh that is classic. We'll see who's running scared when all the players in the smear campaign are NAMED OPENLY. And from what is being mentioned on the newest blog, it is going to be much sooner than expected. The johnettes are starting to turn on one another. What a sight to see. ROFLMAO

Now back in the cage lil' Johnny. Mama is calling you. She's got some nice, fresh rats for you to munch on. Then later on, you can play in the Internet Cafe with Rick if you are good. Rick is serving CAMPBELL soup today. :)

May 16, 2006 7:34 AM  
Blogger Truth Rules said...

Wow, it looks like I hit a nerve with this blog.

John, I will not allow labels to be used with your name. Nor with Clay's or anyone else.

However, if we're discussing pickles I'm cool with that.

Also, any post that doesn't take Clay at his word will be deleted. If you want to do that, find another blog to post in.

That said, I've done a bit of sweeping up the debris I found in here.

May 16, 2006 8:12 AM  
Blogger Truth Rules said...


A psycho pathological condition characterized by delusional fantasies of wealth, power, or omnipotence.

An obsession with grandiose or extravagant things or actions.

a pathological egotist


Stalker boy, you have no more power over Clay and his career than I do. You are nothing more than an annoyance. A gnat up his nose.

What you fail to realize is that the more you attack the more we close ranks. We may take a swat at you and your swarm of gnats on occasion because you annoy us but one good shot of bug spray and your gone.

Hey, that's a great title for Clay's highly anticipated new cd. Bug Spray.

May 16, 2006 9:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So, little asswipe has a mole at FOC.

SO WHAT!!!!!!

There isn't one post there that I personally have made that I wouldn't have said to your face.

You think you are so devious and smart. But what you are is a joke. The butt (sorry bad pun) of a thousand jokes.

And we are bored with you now. BEGONE YOU LOSER.

May 16, 2006 9:37 AM  
Blogger yeahthat said...

Narcissitic personality disorder...megalomania, egocentrism...they all fit stalkerboy to a t.

He still thinks he is above reproach.

His ego will be his undoing. Mark my words.

Oh, and stalkerboy, no sense bringing the posts from Adam and Leon's board over here...we post there, too, and have read them all.

If you're trying to convince us that you have inside sources over surprise...nothing you say or do is a surprise, stalkerboy. You are old, used and boring.

May 16, 2006 9:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"A psycho pathological condition characterized by delusional fantasies of wealth, power, or omnipotence."

JP said he's thinking of buying his mom a new house. Would that be before or after his unemployment checks run out? hahahaha

May 16, 2006 10:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The Internet can be such a great place but at the same time a place where anarchy rules. :-(

Asswipe, you may be smug about how things are going, but your arrogance and ego will be your downfall. You are an evil shadow of a man.

Too bad you latched on to a good guy like Clay.

The forces of good vs the forces of evil. Let's hope somehow good prevails here.

May 16, 2006 10:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wouldn't you just love to play poker with this guy?

Strategy is to keep your cards close to your chest. Not with J-boy. His arrogance and ego won't let him.

Nope, he needs to crow and brag about how smart he is and show his hand.

He'll be leaving the game penniless, but he's too stupid to realize it.


May 16, 2006 11:04 AM  
Anonymous Polly Graf said...

I am very disappointed. Once again, JP showed us the coward that he is. I put aside all my 30 some questions that he refused to answer and only asked him one...well, maybe a couple.

It was a simple question. Who is Insane Bastard? There is no way anyone who witnessed that exchange when it occurred could doubt that IB knew what he was talking about and he knew JP and Corey. Yet, JP refuses to tell us and, as with so many other things, he plays dumb.

I have a very good idea who IB is and I understand why JP feels he can't answer the question. All his efforts for the past 4+ months disintegrates with the revelation of that knowledge.

As JP said, "Soon this will end..."

May 16, 2006 1:33 PM  
Blogger Truth Rules said...

I heard through the grapevine that pickle was out house hunting this past weekend. Interesting. Hasn't he been out of work for months? I wonder who is paying his bills.

I did read someplace, (don't remember where) that one way of hiding payments for certain activities was to have your bills paid for you instead of receiving direct payment.

May 16, 2006 1:45 PM  
Blogger John Paulus said...

Why did you remove my posts if this board is about TRUTH. So much for that. As far as house hunting... I have PLENTY of money and could be jobless for 10 years spending 50k a year and STILL be comfortable. It looks like I'll be here for a LONG time.

May 16, 2006 1:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


I can't stand looking at that fugly face.

May 16, 2006 2:21 PM  
Blogger Truth Rules said...

$500,000. That's the amount some said the NE paid for that story.

Just sayin.

May 16, 2006 2:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

01:06 PM: The value of silence
Edited to thank those who wanted the following blog post to be reposted elsewhere. I don't visit any other Clay Aiken boards, but you may feel free to repost the following in whole or in part elsewhere, (as long as your board's admins don't mind).
Clay Aiken fans often have collection full of articles and computer hard drives full of photos and video clips about the man. They love Clay Aiken, they think he's wonderful, and they can’t enough of the sight and sound of him singing. They relish any new bit of public praise for him, and eagerly share their adoration and joy with each other.

There is a micro fine line between adoration and hatred, and an individual's obsessive adoration can become obsessive hatred very, very easily.

No matter what caused the obsessed man with a blogspot site to latch onto Clay, no matter what the nature of their initial contact was (and if for no other reason than the psychological imbalance displayed by his rampant obsession, I am not inclined to take the blogger’s version as gospel), it is no excuse for the unrelenting blogging aimed against Clay.

That the blogger mocks Clay’s fans is secondary; we are only ammunition to him in his attacks against Clay. We need to realize that. It is not about us at all. It’s about his hatred of Aiken.

No one having any discussion about Clay on the Internet, no matter how benign, no matter how reasonable, is safe from being used by this person. Even material that is several years old has been dug up, selectively edited, and pasted into his obsession, until it's become the negative equivalent of a Claymate's scrapbook; rather than a collection of positive articles and photographs it's a pastiche of every possible negative thing of any sort he could gather about Aiken.

It’s made those of us who enjoy talking about Aiken on the Internet become upset, angry, and finally worried that anything we post will be used against Clay. Our frustration can lead us to do some very unwise things even with the best of intentions.

Recognizing this caused me to dust off my copy of Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear. Though nearly ten years old, it still is a valuable resource on understanding and anticipating the actions of dangerous people. De Becker ( is a very highly regarded authority on threat assessment and personal security.

"Stalkers are by definition people who don't give up easily--they are people who don't let go. More accurately, the vast majority of them are people who don't let go at the point most of us would, but who ultimately do let go--if their victims avoid engaging them.
In cases in which the pursuer has initially gotten what he perceived as favorable attention, or in which he has actually dated or had a relationship with his victim, he may be so desperate to hold on that he'll settle for any kind of contact. Though he'd rather be a boyfriend, he'll accept just being a friend. Eventually, though he'd rather be a friend, he'll accept being an enemy if that's the only position available. As a stalking ex-boyfriend wrote to a young client of ours, "You'll be thinking of me. You may not be thinking good thoughts, but you'll be thinking of me."

De Becker's advice on dealing with such people? Do not engage. Detach completely from them, and do not engage in any communication with them whatsoever. Don't return phone calls. Don't respond to emails. Don't allow contact with them in any way whatsoever, even indirectly.

The way to stop contact is to stop contact. I suggest one explicit rejection and after that absolutely no contact. If you call the pursuer back, or agree to meet, or send him a note, or have somebody warn him off, you buy another six weeks of his unwanted pursuit.

That is why it is so very important that Aiken's fans stop trying to communicate with Aiken's stalker. Don’t contact him or attempt to either help or discourage him in his obsessive behavior. Direct contact with him in any way will only feed his obsession.

Stop posting on the stalker's blog. Stop visiting it at all (the site hits are feeding his need to be noticed). I know how hard it can be for some fans. I have read the rationalizations that “knowledge is power,” and “I’m doing this because we need to know what he’s up to,” etc. Now is an excellent time to work on self control. Just don’t go there.

People may even think Aiken is somehow "getting what he deserves," or that the situation is somehow "for the best," but do you really want to be encouraging someone who poses a genuine threat (perhaps even physical as well as professional and psychological) to Aiken?

We may think we can convince the stalker to stop. We can't. We should not even try. Any attention from us is only serving to encourage him further. Please take de Becker's advice. Detach, do not engage further.

I am as certain as I can be that Clay has been very wise (and hopefully is receiving professional advice like de Becker’s) in not addressing this situation publicly at all, even to his fans. He should not do so. And we should do what we can to minimize his (and our) risk. Leave the stalker completely alone.

I have no idea how this will be resolved in the long run. Clay is certainly not the first celebrity to fall afoul of an unwanted admirer. What he did to initially engage the stalker (if anything) and what he does to have him scraped off are out of our hands. We can only control ourselves, and that is what we should be doing now, for all our sakes as well as Clay’s.

May 16, 2006 2:36 PM  
Blogger Truth Rules said...

No random thoughts in that essay. Amazing.

May 16, 2006 2:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's the damn message that matters. What is wrong with you people that you don't get it. Engaging the fool is really STUPID, IMO. You don't help anyone, especially Clay and that is all I want to do is stop this madness from going further and further into HELL!

May 16, 2006 3:26 PM  
Blogger yeahthat said...

Oh goodie, just what I'm waiting for...a 50 year old, wrinkled, non-tan (hard to get a tan behind a computer screen), botoxed, bald man playing games for another 10 years.

I can't wait!

May 16, 2006 6:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

God, you're good! Thanks! I needed that!

May 16, 2006 11:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

jp - you posted this:

As far as house hunting... I have PLENTY of money and could be jobless for 10 years spending 50k a year and STILL be comfortable.

You told me your attacks on Clay weren't about money, but if you lost your job and you suddenly have enough money to buy a home and not worry about expenses too much, then where'd the money come from? Your puppeteer? Because, you know, you are being played whether you believe it or not.

And in being used, you have disgraced the Green Berets (boy, do I bet they're thrilled with you!) and your family. Bet your mom is tickled pink knowing you troll the interent looking for casual sex with strangers (preferably celebrities) and showing nude pictures of yourself there. *sniff* That kind of behavior makes a mom sooooo proud!

And where's the nice guy you purport to be? All you do is show up where you're not wanted and make crazy, veiled threats. On top of trashing Clay, of course. And you never answered my question of why you're doing it. If it's not money, what is it?

May 16, 2006 11:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Adam has posted on the new FOC blog a phone message John left him. Something about having 1 hour to stop.

May 17, 2006 1:04 AM  
Blogger yeahthat said...

Where is this phone message?

May 17, 2006 9:11 AM  

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